Social media has woven itself into nearly every part of modern life, and while I do use it, I try to stay mindful of how much time I spend there and why I’m logging on. It’s a wonderful way to keep in touch with people near and far, but let’s be honest—most of us rarely talk to the majority of the people on our “Friends” list, and I’m no exception. I keep those connections for one simple reason: when I feel inspired, I want to share that spark with as many people as possible. I know plenty of folks won’t care what I have to say, some won’t bother reading my longer posts, and others simply won’t see them—but for those who do, I hope my words help in some small way. And for those who don’t, I hope that someday I say exactly what you need on the very day you need it most.
My infrequent posts come from a place that’s genuine, honest, and kind to myself. I write for me—for the way it makes me feel and the freedom it brings. I love the rhythm of my fingers flying across the keyboard, how the pace quickens as my thoughts multiply, and that thrilling sense of barely keeping up with my own ideas. I don’t share for attention, pity, or praise—I share because I believe in what I have to say, and it feels good to send a little goodness out into the universe, even the social media universe.
How often do you open your computer, tablet, or phone to check social media and find nothing but negativity, toxicity, and drama? Yet we keep going back—we keep scrolling, and some of us can’t resist commenting on what we see. We might feel outraged, supportive, or amused. I have those reactions too, but the difference is that 9.5 times out of 10, I stay quiet. The more drama we engage with, the more we invite into our own lives. It’s fine to be supportive, but set boundaries and choose your battles wisely.
If you’re the one spreading gossip, posting angry or hurtful words, or airing your dirty laundry all over social media—let it go. Be the person people look forward to hearing from, the one positive post in a sea of twenty or thirty updates. In a social media world full of complaints, the positive, funny, and lighthearted voices are the ones that truly stand out. If you want good things in your life, send good energy out to the universe, to your friends, family, and even strangers. Don’t think you can be a drama-filled, attention-seeking mess and still receive all the good life has to offer. You have to work for it. I understand—we all have tough days—but handle them privately. If you need support, call someone; if you need comfort, hug a family member; if you need a reminder of your worth, write a letter to yourself about how awesome you are. Write a letter to whoever is upsetting you—and don’t send it. Find a positive outlet that doesn’t pollute other people’s lives.
Please?
I believe the world would be a better place if more people set their phones down at breakfast, lunch, and dinner tables, looked each other in the eye, and truly talked. When you’re visiting with someone, catching up and having real conversations beats sitting in silence while both of you stare at your screens or text other people. We need to bring back that personal connection—back to the basics. I’d rather receive a handwritten card or letter than an email or text any day; it feels more authentic, like it carries more of my energy. Don’t get me wrong—texting is a helpful tool, and I’m a big fan. Sometimes you just want to ask a quick question or say hi, and email serves the same purpose. All of it is useful, and technology keeps evolving. I love it and think it’s fantastic, but it can be abused. Anything can be overused—it’s all about moderation. Choose the people you invest more effort in, and then actually make that effort. I think people are lazier today than ever before, and that’s truly sad.
I’m not exempt from any of this—I’m guilty too. But I try to stay aware, catch myself when I slip, pull back, and do the right thing. No one is perfect, certainly not me, but we can all try a little harder to be better people and send better energy out into the universe. At the end of the day, we all share this universe, so we all share the same energy—let’s make sure the good outweighs the bad. I simply ask you to put a little more thought into what you do and say, and I challenge myself to do the same.
And remember the saying, “If it’s on the Internet, it has to be true.” Yeah, that’s a joke—as in, it’s not the truth, and you shouldn’t believe everything you read or see. Sometimes people are mean and want to offend you, and other times they’re simply speaking their mind—not trying to offend, judge, or convince you, just sharing what they believe. So choose carefully what you let upset you, what you react to, and where you spend your precious energy.
Disconnect for a minute
Go outside and enjoy something organic—fresh air, a hug from your partner or a loved one, a tree. Just breathe it all in and make a memory of it.
You rock—so let it shine!
Have a wonderful weekend.
K
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